Creative Ways to Process Grief and Change in Parenthood

Jul 18

The transition to parenthood often comes with unexpected grief as you adjust to changes in your relationships, career, identity, and lifestyle. Sometimes these changes and the feelings they create can be hard to put into words. Expressive arts, such at the activities listed below, can help you integrate your experiences into a more cohesive, empowering, and hopeful narrative.

Consider engaging in a creative activity that resonates with you and can visually or metaphorically represent your feelings and experiences related to your grief as a mother. Allow yourself to freely express your emotions, even if they may seem unconventional.

Here’s a list of different ways to engage with your grief:

Create a mixed-media collage. Incorporate elements that symbolize your grief, loss, and transformation. Use images, colors, and textures that evoke your emotions and experiences.
Write a heartfelt letter. Express your thoughts and feelings about the unexpected aspects of parenthood and the grief that accompanies them. Write to yourself, loved one, or child. You can also use this practice to connect with an unborn child who was lost in pregnancy.
Engage in Body Movement or Dance: Movement can be a powerful way to connect with and release emotions. Consider exploring grief through body movement or dance. Find a private space where you feel comfortable and free to move. Allow yourself to embody your emotions, whether it's through slow, flowing movements or dynamic and expressive gestures. Use your body as a means of expressing the depths of your grief and the changes you have undergone as a mother. You can also explore different dance or movement forms that resonate with you, such as contemporary dance, improvisation, or even gentle yoga. Focus on the sensations and emotions that arise as you move, allowing yourself to release any tension or pent-up emotions. Consider incorporating symbolic gestures or movements that represent your experiences of unexpected grief and the transformational journey of parenthood.
Create a Memory Box or Altar: Gather objects, photographs, and mementos that hold significance to your experiences as a mother and the grief you've encountered. These could include items that represent the loss or changes you've experienced, as well as reminders of the love and connection you shared with your child or the dreams and expectations you had. Then put together a memory box or altar to honor these elements. Arrange the objects in a meaningful way, incorporating elements of nature, candles, or personal symbols. This space can serve as a tangible and sacred reminder of your journey, allowing you to reflect, mourn, and find solace when needed. You can revisit this space whenever you feel the need to connect with your grief and the unique path you've traveled as a mother.

Remember, these are just a few creative suggestions, and you can adapt and customize them to suit your personal preferences and interests. The key is to find a creative outlet that resonates with you and provides a safe space for exploration and expression. Trust your intuition and allow yourself to be open to the unexpected as you engage with your grief.